Everything you need from Thursday's session + an update on the "thing" I keep not doing.

Hey everyone, recording from Thursday is here.

On the call I shared that I really want to get into a rhythm of writing more and actually sharing it... I have been sitting on doing this for about 3 months (despite doing lots of writing, I'm just not hitting that publish button!)

So... where am I with the newsletter? I took myself through the method (you can see my example here), I PLANNED to write and send the newsletter on Friday morning (blocked off 3 hours), but I ended up having a client sync right after our session and then had a 3 hour call with a friend, time flew by, and I didn't get to bed until 1am!! So... I ended up being really tired in the morning so didn't get the newsletter finished because my brain wasn't being very functional! I just couldn't structure things / make things make sense.

Instead of giving myself a hard time, I felt neutral because of doing the method... and because I'm not shaming myself for not sticking to the deadline, I'm able to look at the conditions that got in the way of me sending out the newsletter... and create another time block where I would actually do it.

Here are all 3 recordings of the sessions from the past 3 weeks:

• Recording of EP 3 - Own the traits of the World Builder (last night)
• Recording of EP 2 - Going from Corporate to World Building
• Recording of EP 1 - How ecology keeps us in one place

Below are the traits of the World Builder and also the exercise we did:

The Traits of a World Builder

World Builders aren’t more fearless or better than everyone else. They’re simply wired to build from a different internal order. When we’re building, we must build from a stable base (if we're stuck, spinning out wheels, it's a symptom we're not on solid footing). Below are the dominant traits that world builders have - usually if you are not doing something you want to do, you can locate one of these traits and use it to build from as stable base.

1. World Builders Go First

Trait: World Builders demonstrates a consistent ability to create stuff before they have received any external encouragement from other people.

You know you're a world builder if...
... You don’t need everyone to give you permission or approve of what you're doing, you see something you think the world needs and build before anyone else "gets it". Once you’ve decided something matters, it becomes your job to stand behind it long enough for others to understand why. Validation can come later, but you feel a sense of duty to make the thing you care about exist.

2. Builds From Obsessions and Unresolved Complaints

Trait:
World Builders consistently draw motivation from things that naturally inspire them (i.e. obsessions and unresolved complaints...under every complain is a vision for a better world). They are not creating from trends or external incentives.

You know you’re a World Builder if…
...the thing that motivates you is coming from inside, from the things you can’t stop thinking about. The patterns that annoy you, the visions you see for the world being better, the gaps that bother you. You don't have to remind yourself to care about the thing you're building from.

3. ANTHROPOLOGISE YOUR LIFE 

Trait:
World Builders demonstrate the ability to convert their unique life experiences, contradictions, and cultural references into something valuable for others.

You know you’re a World Builder if…
...Instead of smoothing out contradictions, you weave them together. Your history becomes your advantage. Your taste, context, and lived experience become context you always draw from. In a world where strategies can be copied, what you’ve lived cannot — and that’s precisely where your edge lives.

4. Leads With Vision, Then Uses Feedback to Refine

Trait:
A World Builder initiates work from a clear internal vision and uses external feedback to refine execution, not to determine whether the work should exist.

You know you’re a World Builder if…
... you value feedback, but it's used to sharpen your vision, not change the course of what you have built, your vision comes first. Signals come second. When this order is reversed, you lose yourself and you have a wobbly spine. World builders aren't ahead of their time, everyone else often just needs to catch up... e.g. Henry Ford "if i asked people for what they wanted, they would have said faster horses"

5. Tolerates Being Misunderstood and Value-Based Rejection

Trait:
A World Builder are ok with creating contrast in order to be more clear to the people who they really want to serve

You know you’re a World Builder if…
...your work resonates deeply with some people, it will repel others. World Builders don’t ask, “How do I avoid criticism?” They ask, “Is this feedback revealing a blind spot – or confirming I have a point of view?” To make something so specific that the right people instantly recognize themselves in it, you must accept that it will also repel others.

6. Prioritises Momentum Over Perfection

Trait (Demartini format):
A World Builder demonstrates a bias toward creating momentum, using available resources to progress work rather than waiting for ideal conditions and perfection.

You know you’re a World Builder if…
... you move with what’s available, refine in motion, and trust that clarity follows action. When perfectionism appears, you recognise it not as high standards, but as a nervous system seeking safety and understand that momentum is medicine. Your progress restores trust faster than polish ever could.

7. Is Comfortable With Delayed Gratification

Trait (Demartini format):
A World Builder demonstrates comfort with delayed gratification

You know you’re a World Builder if…
... things don't 'take off' right away, you are willing to keep working at what you are building. You have an understanding that craft, reputation, and trust compound over time. You’re less interested in quick wins than in building something that holds. While others rush for validation, you stay focused on durability.

8. Treats Failure as Necessary Curriculum

Trait:
A World Builder interprets failure as feedback and education required for mastery, rather than as a signal to stop or self-judge.

You know you’re a World Builder if…
... you expect failure, and you use it to bolster your story. You see it as your curriculum. You expect things to break, misfire, and miss the mark. Each attempt refines judgment, strengthens resilience, and clarifies direction.

Owning the World Builder traits & finding stable ground

1. What is one thing you keep saying you’re going to do, that you have not done? Purpose of this question: To locate a broken promise — the place self-trust is leaking, this is not a motivation problem. This is a data point.
   
2. What do you say is stopping you? (brain dump all the excuses, there may be more than one, work on each excuse one at a time)
   Note: These are not excuses, these are outer layer of protection, surface-level rationalisations to keep you from changing anything. We’re not fixing these — we’re going underneath them. These are you "tiny grains of sand" from session
   
3. Identify all of the BENEFITS of NOT doing the thing. Give at least 10 benefits, more if you can. Why: No one resists action without a strong motive. This dissolves shame and reveals intelligence in the behaviour. If the benefits of not doing it outweigh the benefits of doing it, resistance is not the problem — resistance is the correct strategy.
   
4. Which World Builder trait is this action actually asking me to express? Look at the 8 World Builder traits and choose one.
   Why: Identify the capacity being asked for, not the task. You’re moving the frame from: “Why can’t I do this?” to “What trait is being called forward?” This stops self-attack and restores neutrality.
   
5. Where do I already demonstrate this trait fluently? List at least 20 specific examples. Think across your highest values in life, and also 7 areas of life: Financial, physical, vocational, mental, spiritual, familial, social. Why: You’re proving to your system that this trait already exists. We’re restoring internal authority and neutralising self-attack.
   
6. What’s the cost of NOT doing this? Where do you feel friction, boredom, or self-judgment? List 20 things. What part of your life feels constrained or dulled when this action is avoided? Why: This makes the inaction conscious — not as punishment, but as information.
   
7. What conditions would need to be true for my system to feel safe enough to take one step in the next 48 hours?? Answer only in these containers:
   1. Time window (date + start/end time):
   2. Duration (max time allowed):
   3. Scope (what is included / excluded):
   4. Finish line (how I’ll know it’s done):
   5. Anything else that is important?:

You can see my example here

You don’t move forward by forcing the action you said you’d take. You move forward by taking the next action your system already trusts.